A lot of people struggle with jealousy when they see someone doing something similar to what they do, especially when that someone is seemingly more successful. It causes very uneasy and unpleasant emotions to rise up (which come from the underlying thinking that someone else’s success is keeping us from our own).
Many of my clients have been concerned with others “copying ideas” or out-right using some of their very words or phrases without citing the reference (of course there could be legal copyright issues there).
The truth is, in general, you will see peeps everywhere using very close to the same ideas, doing very similar work, and at times getting as close to copying as they legally can (which is not good and most often unethical), but unless they are taking legally protected, copyrighted, or trademarked work, or copying more than a few words, word-for-word, you cannot stop it. General ideas are all around us, and people will access these ideas, and play off of these ideas. “There is nothing new under the sun” said Solomon!
Then there are those ideas, words, and phrases that no one owns or can own, even if they use them all the time. Common phrases and ideas are just that-common! We can stay all caught up, tense, angry, focused on the negative, ineffective, stuck, or we can be forward moving. We only have two choices about something that is always around us and a fact of human existence.
So, let me help you when you see someone whose ideas are really close to yours, and they are not “legally” copying you (but they are coming rather close). Just DECIDE to change your mindset about it or you’ll go nuts, and you will hinder your own success. Think of your work as a flavor in a niche!
I like to think of it this way. You may frequent 10 restaurants, but they all serve different food. Even two hamburger joints are never the same, and still, sometimes you want an In-and-Out burger, other times you have a hankerin’ for some Fuddruckers! You may like them both. You may frequent them both, or some people may like one and avoid the other. It’s all good. They both manage to stay in business!
Or take another example… clothing stores. There are thousands of them. I personally shop at a number of clothing stores. I get what I need for different occasions of my life from the appropriate store, so no need for one store to freak out over the other.
Bottom line, stay positive. Don’t get caught in that jealousy muck. Do not resist what you cannot change (actually, don’t resist much of anything), instead be open and let your own creative thinking have a place to flow (don’t block creative thinking by letting negativity hang around).
In life, ministry, and in business, we all bring our unique selves to the table, and we all have a message that will strike a nerve with a particular person or potential client at a particular stage or moment in their life.
We all have a “flavor” if you will, a “Gift of Brilliance” that is uniquely ours. Even if we seemingly sell the same thing, that “flavor” or “Gift of Brilliance” is the clear difference. It is the deciding factor for people based on where they are at in their lives.
Let your “Gift of Brilliance” authentically represent in truth who you are in your work, and you will draw the right people and the most ideal clients right to you. With that, you will also work directly in a zone of flow where you are spot on and truly creative and effective.
No need to trip out or allow jealousy a place in your heart and mind. At the end of the day, your client wants YOU at a particular time in their life, and that is why they buy!
Life is too short to be jealous or to get into negative energy over what other people are doing–even when they seemingly are doing what we are doing. No matter what we say or how we react, we cannot stop the “copycats”, or the ferocious go-getters, so we may as well just stay in right thinking and focus on the amazing value we ourselves have to offer by being who we truly are. Also know that many “copycats” means there is a market for that product or service. Find a way to use your “Gift of Brilliance” to make yours splendorously appealing!
To Your Brilliant Success,
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